What would you do if a Doctor looked you straight in your face and told you, "If you do not change your ways you will not see your son turn 8."? Even to go on saying that stress could break up your marriage, family, and that in the long run you were not only killing your self but also your kids from teaching them YOUR bad habits. What would you do?
Would you tell the doctor to mind his own damn business? Cry? Maybe say ok we will start "Monday!" (By the way saying you are going to start on Monday is nothing but an epic fail all in it self).
What did I do? Looked at my husband and said yup he is right and things need to change. We both agree that we need to be a family...let me rephrase that... a fun, loving, and respectful family. We need to not let our marriage run like our business. A marriage is not a business agreement and it was starting to feel that way. We get one weekend a month that we cherish and we need to worry more about the quality time we spend together more than the place where we spend it. If you see my posts on Facebook you know we are ALWAYS going SOMEWHERE!
Then again we have to leave the nest to get time to ourselves. You see, my dad lives with us. As much as we love him we need a break from him as much as we do the kids and even hope that maybe one day (by the end of January) he will be back living on his own. By then Cole should be in his own bed and maybe have his room back!
We also need time for ourselves! I miss getting my hair and nails done. I miss buying an outfit that makes me feel pretty. I am always in capris, a t-shirt, and flip flops. Not much sex appeal going on there! I know he misses shooting darts, messing with his bow, and just hanging out with guys that are older than 2 and 11 lol.
Finally, and the most important thing is we need to get healthy. So what will be our approach you may ask? My response is Clean Eating! I have a good friend that has been doing this for quite some time now and I have been doing a little homework and even my husband likes the idea. Will we quit all the processed foods and fried foods cold turkey? If I told you yes it would be a damn lie. Can I say this is something we are going to slowly move into our daily living and make it our main dietary lifestyle? Yes. It will take time but I know we can do it.
Is this going to be tough? Of course it is! Not only do I have to reprogram 3 adults there are also 3 children that I have to also. Will I continue to make all of their fav things? Of course, but now I will do my homework to find out how to make it healthier. Sure it will taste a little different but our taste buds will adjust. Oh, I can see a lot of blogging in my future! lol
So the game plan is...
- Get the kids involved with helping around the house
- Get this house back to being a fun home and finally getting outside and making the yard the place to be so we can get everyone outside and moving
- Get Moving! I will be exercising!
- Taking on a healthy eating lifestyle! (MOST IMPORTANT!)
- Becoming a better family...to each other and ourselves!
There is so much more to list but this is a great start. So come on this journey with me. From the eating, to family, to all of the projects we will be doing! I have said this so many times in my other posts but this is so different! I do not want to hurt my kids when this is something that can be changed and I want my husband and myself to see our kids, grand kids, and heck great grandkids, grow up!
xoxoxo,
Kelly
I know that I am not doing this every night and to be honest I won't be. I will do it when the mood strikes which is normally at least once a week. I am personally ok with that now, because I have found clarity in all of this!
I have wanted to do this weight loss thing for a very long time but along the way I have wanted to help others. To show them that we are all human and will have our ups and downs but in the end we will prevail. Now I know I was going about it all wrong! I was so worried about being perfect which was the exact opposite of what I was trying to tell people. Hey I can give great advice but that doesn't mean I take it! Because of this I have been praying for some type of clarity of what I need to do to not only make myself healthy but to hopefully inspire someone that they can do it to.
I was trying every workout, supplements, etc. I thought that one of them would work and that would be what I would tell every one about and I would get skinny and it would happen! Then...nope! I would fail and then you would not hear from me until I was ready to try the next "thing" again. Well that is no more!
I still want to help people but to do that I need to show them that I can help myself. So that is what I am doing. I am no longer doing a certain program. I am doing my own which is a little of every thing I have tried from different programs and liked. I am going to exercise every day now.
Another HUGE change I have decided on is when I exercise. I don't know why I had it in my mind that I had to wait till night time to exercise. I am not a morning person so I chopped it up to working out once everyone went to bed. Duh! I was tired too so I would either half ass it or not do it at all and well that wasn't going to get me anywhere so now I exercise during nap time before I do my normal work. I have to workout in our office and I normally don't like to workout in front of anyone. Why you may ask? Because when I was a kid and my mom did her Jane Fonda or was Sweating to the Oldies I would be laughing and cracking jokes the whole time! Sorry mom! So now I have to say screw it! Laugh if you want to and crack jokes because I am getting healthy for myself and my kids!
So hear me now...I will be healthy, I will make healthy choices, I will take care of ME the way I see fit, and I will keep this clarity to be victorious in my journey!
